Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Budget does NOT Mean Cheap

Why does the word budget make me think that I have to live so cheaply?  I don't get it?  I believe people can be on a budget and spend big and really get whatever they want.  Let me look at what the word budget really means.


  [buhj-it]  Show IPA noun, adjective, verb,budg·et·ed, budg·et·ing.
an estimate, often itemized, of expected income and expense for a given period in the future.
a plan of operations based on such an estimate.
an itemized allotment of funds, time, etc., for a given period.
the total sum of money set aside or needed for a purpose: the construction budget.
a limited stock or supply of something: his budget of goodwill.

An estimate, often itemized, of expected income and expense for a given period of time.  A plan of operations based on such an estimate.  Does that sound like cheap or suffering?  Does that sound stressful?  Does that sound like you have to squeeze by or you have to use coupons on everything you buy?  It doesn't to me.  To me it makes me feel organized and secure, like there is a plan.

Don't believe the lie that just because you have a budget you are going to be suffering like you are on a diet.  Now if you have gotten yourself into a financial mess there will be baby steps to get out of it, but just having the plan written out, is relieving and not restricting.  Freedom will come from it.

Here is a few good places to start: 

Dave Ramsey's Baby Steps
Dave Ramsey's Budgeting Forms
Dave Ramsey's Radio Show

Listen to some of his advice and it is practical and easy to understand.  I love listening to his radio show and also am doing the Baby Steps and have used some of his budgeting forms.  It can be fun if you change your perspective on budgeting. 

More later...

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

My Life IS God's

I share about bringing God back into my all but what if I have all along and was deceived by doubt making me feel like I'm not worthy and I haven't really brought Him all in?  Well I have and he is, like, forever.  I cannot doubt that I am His because I know that I am. 

Having a health coach really doesn't mean that I am relying on the person to help me or fix me (though I try to rely on the person, but God reminds me it doesn't work that way), but what she does is point me back to God over and over and help me work to see what it is He is teaching me and she redirects me in the way I set out to go, His way for me.  One thing that she is teaching me and what I am learning through the renewing the mind Bible study from her website, is that my thoughts are playing a big role, if not THE biggest role in this whole journey with eating and in life struggles.

Romans 12:2 says "Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect."

One question posed when I read the study yesterday was this, what are you thinking right before you break your boundaries.  Whatever goals you have for yourself, what is it that you are doing right before you decide to give up and not follow through?

My first answer was Question and Doubt!  (or rationalize)

So I am working on writing out the truths of what I am thinking before I decide to give up.  I want to change my thoughts and as His Word says, be transformed by the renewing of my mind.

More later!

Monday, July 15, 2013

What are you grateful for?

I feel led to switch gears this week a little. With new learning of lots of heart lessons and the main topics seem to be honoring God and being content, I would like to have a bit of a gratitude journal to brighten my day. With so much focus on self self self I must say I need to focus outwards or I may just drive myself crazy!!

So here I go. 
I am grateful that I can pray. 
I loved the sunshine today and the bright blue sky. 
I also loved the rain showers that came and went today. I love rain drops and clouds. 
I loved the cooler temperature after the rain cleared. 
I love a great book I'm reading. 
I'm grateful for sweet conversations with family members today. 
I'm grateful that I have a home and I have food and clothes. That is considered rich to many people. 
I'm grateful for the Bible, which is Gods love letter to me. 
I am grateful for a job I fit perfectly in ad enjoy and can use my talents. 
I'm grateful for family and the simple things that we take for granted like smiles and laughs and just being together. 
I'm thankful for a cozy bed and fluffy pillows. 
I'm grateful for summer time and flowers and sunshine. 

Be blessed and focus on what you are thankful for today. 

Monday, July 8, 2013

Bringing God Back into My All

I have spent a few years resisting God in several areas of my life, or sitting on the fence and not completely listening to Him and his loving guidance.  Not completely turned away, but resisting and not "all in."  I am realizing the past few days how much I have just rushed ahead of God in eating and also in budgeting and just listening to Him in general through daily walking out life.  I long to be authentic, but start to panic when He calls me to do something, so I tend to do it a little and numb myself out with other things so I am not fully doing what He says.  I am learning, as this years 1 Word is TRUST, to trust Him.  Also to realize that when I ask God to guide, that I am not the one in control, He is.  To also realize that His plans for me are not always going to look like I expect and also realize that His plans are actually going to be better than mine.  Always.  Such a relief.

So in the area of eating, I am realizing how He definitely has led me to take care of my body physically by eating between hunger and satisfaction and enjoying my life fully.  I also can say all of the progress I have had in this area as I shared in my last weeks post on intuitive eating principles and where I am, are because I have prayed over them and journaled and read and learned and it was a process, but it was Him helping me for sure.  I cannot deny that.  But when I started working towards intuitive eating again fully recently He helped me to realize I was leaving Him out.

You see, I could eat intuitively or think about it, but something was missing and I was still not feeling happy.  I was learning the tools, but my soul felt hungry still.  For Him, is what I realize it was.  I remember back when I was successful at eating for physical hunger I had a very close partner in this area of life and she helped me closely and prayed with me, and it was so good.  When I lost that after a few months it was challenging and I haven't got that help back just that way again---until now.  He has led me to a friend and someone who I have worked alongside with in Thin Within materials and classes for a while several years ago.  She now offers coaching, praise praise praise!

I am so excited to start a new journey with my health coach, Heidi Byslma, and look forward to what God is going to do in my life through her and with her accountability.  Please pray for me if you read this and know Him, because it is not going to be easy.  To un-numb myself from the things I had numbed myself to (normal life circumstances and challenges we all have) is going to take some vulnerability and courage, but He is able and He is going to help me as I am relying on Him as my main source.

So here is to restarting.  God is doing a new thing now! (In my eating, my money management-a whole new post-and my heart.)

Isaiah 43:19
See, I am doing a new thing!
Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland.

Wednesday, July 3, 2013

10 Principles of Intuitive Eating

I want to spell out what the principles are and then share where I am with each of them.  

1. Reject the Diet Mentality Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you false hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one small hope to linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.
-Where am I with rejecting the diet mentality?  I have thrown out all of my diet books-years ago.  Magazine articles, gone.  Though...I am not sure that 100% of the thoughts of having false hope of losing weight quickly have left my mind yet, but I hope they continue to decrease.  Where she says, "if you allow even one small hope to linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating."  I do not believe I have this accomplished.  I do still get small hopes and haven't fully let go (though I have tried) of the idea that there is something I am missing that I need to do to lose all the weight and be healthy.  I haven't dove in completely, but I have been reserved.  Not fully letting go, and I feel it.
2. Honor Your Hunger Keep your body biologically fed with adequate energy and carbohydrates. Otherwise you can trigger a primal drive to overeat. Once you reach the moment of excessive hunger, all intentions of moderate, conscious eating are fleeting and irrelevant. Learning to honor this first biological signal sets the stage for re-building trust with yourself and food.
-Where am I here?  I am pretty good at honoring my hunger--and I don't go too long without eating.  I do sometimes grab food still when I am not hungry though and that causes me to drown out the feeling of hunger.  Though my goal is not to eat only for hunger 100% of the time--that will only cause me to turn Intuitive Eating into another diet.
3. Make Peace with Food Call a truce, stop the food fight! Give yourself unconditional permission to eat. If you tell yourself that you can't or shouldn't have a particular food, it can lead to intense feelings of deprivation that build into uncontrollable cravings and, often, bingeing When you finally “give-in” to your forbidden food, eating will be experienced with such intensity, it usually results in Last Supper overeating, and overwhelming guilt.
-Where am I at here?  THIS area I am definitely still a work in progress.  This is a huge goal I want to work on-"giving myself unconditional permission to eat."  I have not fully done this, like I said, I have not completely let go--but I am going to work on this.

4. Challenge the Food Police .Scream a loud "NO" to thoughts in your head that declare you're "good" for eating minimal calories or "bad" because you ate a piece of chocolate cake. The Food Police monitor the unreasonable rules that dieting has created . The police station is housed deep in your psyche, and its loud speaker shouts negative barbs, hopeless phrases, and guilt-provoking indictments. Chasing the Food Police away is a critical step in returning to Intuitive Eating.
-Do I challenge the food police?  I am PRETTY good at this and have overcome it for the most part.  I do not call food good or bad and I do not call myself good or bad for eating certain foods.  This is awesome.
5. Respect Your Fullness Listen for the body signals that tell you that you are no longer hungry. Observe the signs that show that you're comfortably full. Pause in the middle of a meal or food and ask yourself how the food tastes, and what is your current fullness level?
6. Discover the Satisfaction Factor The Japanese have the wisdom to promote pleasure as one of their goals of healthy living In our fury to be thin and healthy, we often overlook one of the most basic gifts of existence--the pleasure and satisfaction that can be found in the eating experience. When you eat what you really want, in an environment that is inviting and conducive, the pleasure you derive will be a powerful force in helping you feel satisfied and content. By providing this experience for yourself, you will find that it takes much less food to decide you've had "enough".
-Have I discovered the satisfaction factor? Yes.  I have come a LONG way in this.  People used to KNOW me for standing up while eating.  It was a rare occasion if I sat down to eat.  After going through this process and learning to enjoy my food---well I love to sit down to eat.  I cannot stand eating and not being comfortable and in peace to eat.  I like my plate to be served with food I want, and then I want to sit down and enjoy it, with a delicious drink to go with it.  I would have to say the only thing I need to work on here is eating in the car and also grabbing the chocolates that I tend to overeat on and walking around with them in my hand and doing my tasks while snacking.
7. Honor Your Feelings Without Using Food Find ways to comfort , nurture, distract, and resolve your issues without using food. Anxiety, loneliness, boredom, anger are emotions we all experience throughout life. Each has its own trigger, and each has its own appeasement. Food won't fix any of these feelings. It may comfort for the short term, distract from the pain, or even numb you into a food hangover. But food won't solve the problem. If anything, eating for an emotional hunger will only make you feel worse in the long run. You'll ultimately have to deal with the source of the emotion, as well as the discomfort of overeating.
-This.  Yeah this--I am a work in progress and this needs to be one of the topics I focus on.  She is right-eating for emotional hunger will only  make you feel worse-and it does and I need to work on this.  I still eat when I am overwhelmed, when I am bored, and sometimes just because.
8. Respect Your Body Accept your genetic blueprint. Just as a person with a shoe size of eight would not expect to realistically squeeze into a size six, it is equally as futile (and uncomfortable) to have the same expectation with body size. But mostly, respect your body, so you can feel better about who you are. It's hard to reject the diet mentality if you are unrealistic and overly critical about your body shape.
-Me?  Since I have released weight 2 times when eating when hungry and stopping when full and was a size 4-6 or 8, I feel I have this set in my mind this is where I need to be.  I must say that I may have eaten less than I needed at those times, so I need to have an open mind as to where my body goes as I continue in this process.  I have purchased some clothes here and there the past few weeks that I feel pretty and comfortable in to help accept me right where I am.  I have also cleaned out my drawers and closet of all the clothes I haven't worn, thought I would fit into one day, and that didn't make me feel pretty, and gotten rid of them--two trash bags full, and I will now get clothes as I continue to have my body change.
9. Exercise--Feel the Difference Forget militant exercise. Just get active and feel the difference. Shift your focus to how it feels to move your body, rather than the calorie burning effect of exercise. If you focus on how you feel from working out, such as energized, it can make the difference between rolling out of bed for a brisk morning walk or hitting the snooze alarm. If when you wake up, your only goal is to lose weight, it's usually not a motivating factor in that moment of time.
-I need to continue working on exercising and how I am thinking about it so I can instead of focusing on losing weight when exercising I want to have the thoughts of how I feel--stronger, fit, energized, and healthy.  
10 Honor Your Health--Gentle Nutrition Make food choices that honor your health and tastebuds while making you feel well. Remember that you don't have to eat a perfect diet to be healthy. You will not suddenly get a nutrient deficiency or gain weight from one snack, one meal, or one day of eating. It's what you eat consistently over time that matters, progress not perfection is what counts.
-I have to be careful with this one because I do not want to focus on what types of food I eat, but listening to my body...and I have come a long way in this area.  I learned about "whole body pleasers" while reading Thin Within and I love the perfect bite too.  I like combining the perfect combination of meat, veggies and cheese and maybe a touch of carbs in one bite, that is so good.  I want to continue working on what works best for my body and have gentle nutrition.
These principles were taken from the Intuitive Eating website.

Monday, July 1, 2013

Walking it Out...Intuitive Eating and Taking Care of Myself

Welcome to my series of Walking it Out-my journey to release weight and become healthy by listening to my body and eating for hunger and stopping when satisfied.  This is something I have been on a journey on for a while.

Some things I learned this past week that will help me on this journey:
  • Find foods I enjoy and have them on hand, always.  
  • When I grocery shop try and focus on what I like too and not just other people in my family.
  • Do not rely on people completely-and I learned this Saturday morning in my quiet time while reading Job 12:24-25.  It struck me when reading my NLT Life Application study Bible notes.  It said this:  Job affirmed that no leader has any real wisdom apart from God.  No research or report can outweigh God's opinion.  No scientific discovery or medial advance takes him by surprise.  When we look for guidance for our decisions, we must recognize that God's wisdom is superior  to any the world has to offer.  Don't let earthly advisers dampen your desire to know God better.
Struggles this past week:
  • I kept eating.  I didn't want to find out what was wrong or what I really wanted, I just ate.
  • I struggled with letting go of the scale and feeling like, now what?  What do I do now to keep pressing on.  Felt a bit stuck again.
  • Thoughts of this is too hard and I have too far to go.
Successes this past week:
  • I purchased some new clothing items and was able to get things that were pretty and comfortable.  I want to dress cute all of the time and not just wait until I lose weight.
  • I cleaned out closet and drawers of everything that wasn't pretty, cute, made me feel comfortable and looking good.  2 trashbags full.  Love it.
  • I went to the gym Sunday.  Feels so good to exercise-I really love the elliptical and strength training-and again after I do that and then shower and get dressed pretty-I feel so awesome.  Love love love it!
  • I did purchase a few things at the store for me to eat this week.  (though still need some more work in this area to have real good food I love to eat all week long and not just a few days worth)
Things to focus on in the coming week
  • Start a small list of things I want to buy next weekend for groceries the following week that will give me some new ideas, refreshing yummy food I would love to eat for meals all week next week.  Give some thought and take care of myself.
  • Go to the gym a few times, I love it when I take time to exercise I feel so good.
  • Sit with some feelings and pause before grabbing food.  Even if it is a pause to start-I will work on this.  Pray and ask God to show me what to do next or ask Him what it is I need to understand about how I am feeling.
  • Dress cute every day.